Everybody wants to be in a relationship because we are not
capable of being alone, being alone will make us seem like an incomplete
person, so this brings the urge in us to move into some kind of relationship in
order to be completed, in that case there is something we need to understand
before we start a relationship in other to avoid miseries, problems and
frustrations that is common to all relationships
No relationship ever works... In the beginning it is sweet,
beautiful, because both partners are really possessed by the chemistry and the
biology, and they are seeing things which nobody else can see. It works only in
beginning, but by the time we get deep into it, it will be too late to get out
of it.
Almost all relationship does not work – but people pretend as
if it is working. They continuing hiding the problems they are facing in their
relationship. They put smile on their faces thereby repressing their tears
What works is love, but love is a delicate flower; we
cannot depend on it. Because it is momentary, but under the impact of love we
can become committed, but remember that as far as love is concern it is
momentary, which means that it certainly work for the moment and changes at the
next moment and at that time you will feel like quitting because the love will
not be there at that moment, but then you cannot escape from the commitment,
because you have been brought up with these beliefs: that you have to stick to
your promise, you have to be consistent and you have to fulfill whatsoever word
you have given. Love works, but the moment it becomes a relationship, it
becomes bondage, and when you are in bondage it is impossible for you to be
festive, to be joyous. But in a relationship you have to fulfill your
responsibilities, because love is not something that you do, it is something
that happens.
Everybody talks about love, but observation shows that nobody understand what love is: Love is never
a relationship, and relationship is never love. Love relates, but it is not a
relationship. A relationship is a closed thing. Love always accept the other
without any conditions; if there are conditions, it is not love, love is
without jealousy and love does not possess but gives freedom
Freedom works, friendliness works. And the moment love starts
giving freedom to the other, and then there comes a tremendous fulfillment out
of it, because the greatest desire of man is freedom, not love.
Do not believe this but go and learn, one learns only by
experience because truth is subjectivity. When you are in relationship you will
get more understanding – and that understanding will help you to find the
partner with whom you can stay longer and be happy
