In a relationship, no one knows if there will be happiness or not? – But one thing is certain: love will be destroyed! This is what makes all human relationships fail, simply because relationship destroys love, but the question people might have in their mind is how does it destroy love?
Wherever love happens, possessiveness, jealousy, and domination immediately enters and starts using the possibility of love, but all these things that enters starts destroying it gradually. And these things can kill the love before you know it. When is love destroyed, there will be troubles, conflicts, anger, hatred, and some others things.
Each love relationship proves the topic, because no love relationship is a love relationship at all. It is possessiveness, jealousy, domination, anger, violence and hatred. Psychological monopoly destroys all love and when love is destroyed, naturally you feel the agony of it because the ecstasy of love is missing and you would have invested so much for the love to grow. And the love is not there anymore, you will be left crushed, in a collapse. This is what makes relationships remains a misery.
Love is such a delicate flower. It is very rare to be preserved: it is almost always destroyed. When you love a person there will be no need for you to be possessive. Love is always beautiful in the beginning, love is beautiful is in the end of a relationship, and that is when you will be able to know exactly what love is...not in the beginning of the relationship. Ninety-nine percent of love relationships dies before the ultimate peak is reached; it is a great art to be in love. To fall in love is very easy; to remain in love is very difficult, arduous. Only a few artists of life are capable of remaining in love. Try it, give it a try! Be alert so that you will not destroy it!
Love is an open-ended state and this creates fear – because one never knows where it will take him to. You might be afraid of losing the other, so relationship may be just out of fear, it might have nothing to do with love. The relationship might just be a kind of security, financial or something else. And when you enter into a relationship, you start dominating each other, you start being jealous of each other, and you start being possessive of each other. Relationships are just beautiful on the surface; but deep down they are a sort of bondage
The relationship is needed when love is not there. The relationship is a substitute. Become alert! Relationship destroys love, and even destroys the very possibility of its birth.
You have to remember these: jealousy kills love and possessiveness kills love. If you want great love to happen you have to stop being jealous and if you want your life to grow multidimensional it needs freedom. You need freedom and the person you love needs freedom. Freedom needs an expansion, which is growth. If you really love a person, you will allow all the space possible to the person; you will never encroach on his or her freedom.
